Delayed ejaculation (DE) is difficulty or inability to climax during sex. The most common cause I see is one's porn use and masturbation habits--porn-induced delayed ejaculation or PIDE.

I've got a letter from a young man who has already recovered from PIED. But he strayed from the pornfree path and brought his PIED back. He met the lady of his dreams and stopped his porn use again, but he is now deep in flatline. Will he recover or lose the girl?

Anon's words are in italics. My...

In yesterday's video I explore the toxic and misleading lessons that online sexual content teaches us from a young age. Real intimacy and relationships is different in so many ways.

Cold plunges, cold showers, and cold immersion of all kinds has a long history and is said to have many benefits for athletes, physical health, and mental health. But it can also play an important role in PMO recovery if you're willing to through yourself into the deep end.

Scary? Yeah. But you ...

Many chronic porn users dislike the types of sexual content they have started getting off to. Here's what I tell them.

Learned helplessness will hold you back from building healthy habits and changing your life.

By setting big goals or standards that you fail to keep, you teach yourself that you're a failure. You lose the sense of joy you used to feel in pursuing your aspirations, you lose trust in yourself, and...

As an addiction recovery coach, I work with a lot of people who could benefit from some more willpower. We all want it: The strength of will to carry out one’s decisions, wishes, or plans. But we never seem to have enough of it, and we don’t know how to get more of it.

Ego depletion is a contest...

As an addiction recovery coach, I work with a lot of people whose lives aren’t what they want them to be. For addicts, the relationship between their addiction and the quality of the rest of their lives runs in both directions. The more they use, the worse every aspect of their lives becomes. And...

The best book I've ever encountered on understanding habits is Tiny Habits by behavioral scientist and Stanford professor BJ Fogg. Many other authors, such as James Clear of Atomic Habits, have learned from BJ Fogg's own research on human behavior. But for my money, I'd rather learn from the rese...

You might not be using porn anymore, but are you still cheating yourself out of full recovery? A subscriber requested that I cover "porn adjacent" content or "porn substitutes", as I call them. Here we go.

Anon's words are in italics. My comments and responses are in bold.

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I've got a letter from a recovering porn addict who is doing really well in his own journey. However, he has begun to see the same changes in his nephew that he saw in himself when he got hooked on porn at a young age. What can he do about it?

Anon's letter

Hey Noah, I was at my sister's house ...

I've got a letter from a young man who for most of his life has used porn and experience PIED. Several times he has gotten good streaks and experienced great benefits, but he continues to relapse and go back to his old ways.

H...