Performance anxiety sucks. You have an opportunity to enjoy intimacy and sex with someone you're really attracted to--either on a date with someone new in your life or with your partner--and your stupid brain just won't let you enjoy it. You're too busy worrying about disappointing your lover,...
As a coach, I've worked with hundreds of people recovering from porn addiction and porn-induced problems, and I've heard from quite a few people who used porn again after a year or more pornfree, either as a conscious choice or because of complacency. Spoiler: that's usually a big mistake. I'm...
There are certain times in life that we cannot help but feel completely present for. Climbing a sheer rock wall. Jumping into a body of frigid water. Learning to juggle. Exerting ourselves close to our maximum physical capacity. Fighting someone who wants to hurt us. Kissing someone whom we have...
Do not listen while operating machinery. Find a quiet area where you will not be disturbed to sit or lie down while listening to the meditation. I recommend using this five times per week for the first month, then as needed.
So you’ve been keeping the reality of your porn-induced sexual dysfunction to yourself, and you want to get it off your chest to a special someone in the hope that she will be understanding and supportive of your recovery.
But you’re terrified.
You’re certain that she will feel...
I’m psyched about today’s story. Last year I received a great email from a wife whose marriage was being destroyed by her husband’s compulsive and secretive porn use. She had suspected the truth for years, but he always denied denied denied and made her feel crazy–until...
I often share redemption and recovery stories to inspire rebooters. By seeing what others have accomplished in recovery, our own possibilities open up for us. This is not one of those stories.
This is a story about rock bottom. Rock bottom is a different place for every person, and it can only...
One of the factors that can make a huge difference in addiction recovery is the quality of support and accountability that you develop in your life. Many people who compulsively use drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, or porn try for a long time to control or cease their behavior alone. They hide or...
Today I share a redemption and recovery story from someone who developed severe porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) before he ever had a relationship, then struggled with it in ignorance for years before discovering my work and what was really going on with him. He gave recovery a 90-day...
In this video I go through a hypnosis script designed to help you achieve wellbeing and stability in a permanently pornfree life. If you’re leery of hypnosis, know that I prefer to think of it as guided meditation. I can’t make you do anything that you don’t want to do, and you...
I wish that I could say the title of this article and video is false clickbait, but it is not. No, I have not suddenly decided that pornography use is good for us and quitting is harmful. Rather, I’m here to tell you that merely reducing your use of pornography can cause...
Feel curious, use porn.
Feel horny, use porn.
Feel bored, use porn.
Feel nothing, use porn.
Feel overwhelmed, use porn. Feel regretful, use porn. Feel rejected, use porn. Feel like a failure, use porn. Feel ashamed, use porn. Feel hopeless, use porn.
Feel empowered, quit porn.
