Premature EjaculationNov 04, 2022
Often, people who develop PIPE (porn-induced you-get-it) tried to climax as quickly as possible while masturbating for years, either to avoid getting caught or because they wanted quick relief without wasting too much time. Gradually they trained their bodies to orgasm quickly with minimal stimulation.
Other guys who have never had PE can develop it after they quit porn and start recovery. Simply because they are having fewer orgasms and regaining sensitivity, when they do have sex it can be over quickly. This tends to resolve itself after they become accustomed to having more regular sex.
Before I go further it's important to define exactly what qualifies as “premature”. Frequent porn users can have some unrealistic expectations for how long they should last due to how male porn performers have to operate and how scenes are edited and cut together. Clinically speaking, "Premature ejaculation is a male sexual dysfunction characterized by ejaculation which always or nearly always occurs prior to or within about one minute of vaginal penetration; and, inability to delay ejaculation on all or nearly all vaginal penetrations; and, negative personal consequences, such as distress, bother, frustration, and/or the avoidance of sexual intimacy."
Anxiety can also cause premature ejaculation even in men who have never used porn. Anxiety tends to either make getter erect difficult, promote quick ejaculation, or both. One evolutionary theory as to why this happens is that if you're anxious, it's because you're unsafe. If you're unsafe, it's best to reach orgasm as quickly as possible in order to fertilize your mate and not remain in a vulnerable position longer than necessary.
1. Recruit your partner's support
Telling your partner that you struggle with getting too excited and climaxing too quickly can be a big step in the right direction. If they understand the issue and the tactics you might employ like taking breaks, it will help to take the pressure off so that you can work together to have a great mutual experience.
2. Breathing and relaxation techniques
Removing the anxiety factor can help a lot. Taking deep, slow, and rhythmic breaths will help to calm your body, which helps calm the mind. You may notice that your breathing is shallow or uneven or that you're clenching and holding your breath. When you notice this, focus on breathing deeply and slowly in, holding it for a moment, and then slowly exhale. Breath into your belly rather than into your chest. Keep some of your awareness on your breath as you begin sex. Notice too when your muscles are becoming tense, mindfully allowing the tension to dissipate. Your body should be loose and relaxed, just like your mind.
3. The stop-start method
If you start getting too close to the edge, stop moving or pull out entirely and take a break. Calm yourself, relax your body, focus on your breathing, chat with your partner, etc. for at least 20 seconds or until you feel stable and ready to go again. You may have to employ this tactic several times in fairly quick succession, but then you reach a plateau where you can enjoy more vigorous contact without climaxing too quickly.
4. Masturbation practice
If you decide to incorporate pornfree masturbation, then do so in such a way that helps train yourself to last longer. Practice stimulating yourself for at least 5-10 minutes before orgasm, employing some of the previous techniques while doing so.
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